Bit O Java http://www.bitojava.com Mon, 12 Jun 2017 13:04:57 +0000 en-US hourly 1 https://wordpress.org/?v=4.8 56617810 Attitude is everything – You are in control http://www.bitojava.com/2017/06/12/attitude-is-everything-you-are-in-control/ http://www.bitojava.com/2017/06/12/attitude-is-everything-you-are-in-control/#respond Mon, 12 Jun 2017 13:04:57 +0000 http://www.bitojava.com/?p=2162 Attitude is EverythingAttitude is everything.  Yes it really is true.  What ever your attitude is toward a project or your goals.  Will decide whether you will be successful or not.

Can this really be true?  Is it really that simple?  Yes it really is.  But it is all up to you.  Change tour attitude change your life.

How can you change your attitude?  First thing is that you have to know what your attitude is now.  I am not talking about your minute by minute attitude.  We all know that like the weather that can change quickly.  I am talking about your overall attitude.  What is that?  How do you feel?  How do you look at life.  What is the long term outlook that is setting you on your path?

Attitude is Everything

If you made it here clearly you are looking for a way to change your attitude.  So something brought you here.  As with just about anything.  If you truly want to change your attitude.  You have to be willing to change.  Your attitude is everything.  You are in control of where your attitude goes from here.  This post is to help you see the path and stay on it.

The great thing about attitudes is that they are not set in stone.  At any time you can change it.

What is it that will change your attitude.  We can give you come pointers but in the end it is up to you.  To change your attitude you need to know what you want.   If you are like me you have had some trouble figuring that out.    To make you think about it we have a few questions for you. Do not think about them just answer them as quickly as possible.  Need a place to write them out?  Click Here for a nice little free template we made for you

Questions to ask yourself

  1. What makes you happy?  Think about the things in your life that you really like to do.  Not only will this bring a smile to your face but it will help to give you some ideas on what will change your attitude.
  2. What things do you like to do that make you lose track of time?
  3. What makes you feel amazing about  yourself?
  4. Think of what were or currently are your favorite things to do?
  5. If you could teach someone something what would you teach?

After answering these quick questions you will have an idea of the things that make you happy.  This is what you can use to change that attitude.

You want to change that attitude from crappy to happy – here are a few things to do.

Change that tune

  1.  Have a morning routine –  This does not mean that you have to start the day exactly the same every day.  More that you think or do things that will start the day off right.  For an example think of something positive.  Ask yourself “How much am I going to Accomplish today?  Think of good and happy thoughts.
  2. Believe that you are able to change  – we have already established that attitude it everything.  In order to change that attitude you have to believe that you are able to change.  If you don’t have that belief there will be no way that you will be able to get that great attitude that you are looking for.  You have to actively strive for that great attitude.  Believe in the change and you will be on your way.
  3. Think about how a great Attitude will change your life – in order to change your attitude and make it stick.  It is important to know what it is that you want to achieve.   If you do not have a goal in mind then it will be like flapping in the breeze.

It really is true.  Attitude is everything.  With these helpful tips you can change your attitude.    You can do it.  We know you can.   Leave a comment on how you are doing.  We would love to hear from you.

If you are having trouble figuring out your Goals and Desires click here to read up on our thoughts about that

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Goals or Desires – you make the call http://www.bitojava.com/2017/03/19/goals-or-desires-you-make-the-call/ Sun, 19 Mar 2017 18:45:16 +0000 http://www.bitojava.com/?p=2145 Goals or DesiresGoals or Desires

Goals or desires which one are you?  We have talked a a lot about setting goals.  For some people that may not work.  Some people may need to change their train of thought.  It really all comes down to semantics.

Dictionary.com defines them as:

Goals – the result or achievement toward which effort is directed; aim; end. 

Desires – to wish or long for; crave; want. 

While they are not considered to be direct synonyms they are very close in their definition.

Are they goals or desires for you?

It all depends on how you think.  Who are you and how does your brain work?

What do you want to accomplish and how do you want to accomplish it?

Figure it out – we are here to help

Once you figure this out it will make it easier for you to construct your goals er desires.

Which ever you decide.  Is alright.   What ever will get you to the point of being able to accomplish what you want to do.  There is no wrong answer here.  If you want to call them goals then do it.  If you want to call them desires then do it.

The difficult part is to figure out which one you are.  You could be something else entirely (if you are let us know in the comments) but for this we are using these two terms and sometime you just have to make choices.

I have made some Goals/Desires worksheets for you to use you can get them by clicking the link you identify with below

Daily Goals

Daily Desires

The document is in google drive.  Once you have it open you can save it in your drive if you use Google Drive or save it somewhere else on your computer so you can use it.  You can print it out to have a hard copy so you can write on it.  You can do it digitally if that is how you work.  The key is to just do it.

It does not matter if you decide on Goals or Desires.  The key is that they are both pointing to the same end.  Achieving what you want to get done.  In the end it all leads to you deciding to life the good life.

Let us know in the comments what your choice is or if you have a different term you use.

You can also send us a  message and we will get back to you

Here is to the Good life.  Java Motivation and Relaxation.  Lets do this.

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Write it down – The only way to achieve your goals http://www.bitojava.com/2017/02/07/write-it-down-the-only-way-to-achieve-your-goals/ Tue, 07 Feb 2017 15:40:55 +0000 http://www.bitojava.com/?p=2127 Write it downWrite it down.  Say it out loud.  Write it down.  Now do just that, write it down.

How many times gave you had a fantastic idea and you don’t write it down.  Then later that day or the next you think man that was a great idea.  Wish I could remember what it was.

We have all done it.  Every one of us thinks the same thing.  Wow if I could just remember that great idea.  Where would I be now?

That is why it is so important to write things down.

Lets say you don’t have any paper with you and a pen.  What could you possible do then?

Wait for it….

You have this device that I am sure you carry with you everywhere.   Your phone.  You know what your phone has on it?  A voice recorder.  It probably also has a note taking program.  If you don’t have these two apps on your device down load them now.  Easy as can be.  Now you can at least get that idea down till you can write it down.  You will at least have the basic idea that will trip the old grey matter in your head so the idea will not be lost.

Those are good to have.  Great when you are not in a spot to write the ideas down on paper.  As soon as you can get those ideas written down.

When you write them down they become more permanent and also become more real.  At least they do for me

It has been shown that writing things down can help to lead to action.  I may have just made that up but I am sure there is a study out there that shows this.  So I will change it to this.  In my experience writing things down helps me to get more things done.

Write it Down

Well I guess sometime there are extenuating circumstances.   So unless you are stuck in a haunted hotel writing things down leads to good things.

Why You Should get in the Habit of Writing Things Down

Your Memory Sucks

Very few people have a great memory.  I know everyone can remember things but really.  How much do you remember from day to day.  If you are anything like me you need clues to kick your mind into gear.  If you are writing things down your notes are the clues.

Ideas Fade

As time goes on.  Sometimes as little as a few minutes.  The ideas that you have start to fade and change.  You may have had the best idea that you ever had.  You think holy crap what a great idea.  It was not  written down.  You try and try to remember it.  It does not work.  Your idea is gone.  The amazing idea that you once had has faded into the ether.  If is still there but it is gone to you forever.  It really did not have to be that way.   If you had just written it down you would be on the way to what ever amazing idea or goal you would have had.

Save your Mental RAM

Like a computer we have limited RAM.  For you non computer geeks RAM stands for Random Access Memory.  This is the memory that your programs on your computer run in.  The more RAM you have the better your computer runs.  (well other things can help to but since this post is about writing things down we are focused here).  When you write things down you don’t have to keep the whole idea in your brain RAM.  You off load it to a page file so that when you are ready to process it you just have to take a look at it and BAM there it is the whole idea is back and you are ready to roll.

Focus Focus Focus

Staying focused on your goals is the key.  In order to break bad habits and start new good ones it will take time and focus.   Identify the things that are distracting you from your task?   Games, Movies, Television, Your Pet.  LOL  It is true it can be anything.

Write the distractions down.  Use the writing as a new distraction to distract you from the things distracting you…   That is quite the crazy sentence but if you read it again it actually makes sense.

You are starting a good habit to distract you from the bad habit.  So some distractions can be a good thing.  We will be going in to this more at a later time.

For now get in the habit of writing things down.  It really will make a difference.  Put your list in the comments.  Would love to hear what you are up to.

This all ties into deciding to live the good life.  If you have not read that yet you can find it here.

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Be cautious but not too cautious http://www.bitojava.com/2017/01/24/be-cautious-but-not-too-cautious/ Tue, 24 Jan 2017 21:56:23 +0000 http://www.bitojava.com/?p=2110 Don't be overly cautiousBe Cautious but not too cautious…  As I was driving to work today.  A day where we had some ice.  But not a lot of ice.  Something that is not really a surprise for a January in the Mid West.  I came up behind a car that was going 15 miles an hour on a road where the speed limit is 50.

Good they were being cautious.

Bad they were being way too cautious.

Being cautious to the point that their actions were actually becoming a danger to others.  In this case their overly cautious actions were causing dangerous conditions for others.  What if we look at this is a different way.  How are your actions affecting things for you?

If you are being overly cautious in your life, goals, decision making can and probably will lead to missed opportunities.

Getting past being overly cautious is not something that will be easy to do.  But trust me it can be done.  Being overly cautious can come about from many different things.  Mostly it comes about from habit and a fear of failure.  Once you can learn to overcome those two obstacles you free up time.  The non productive time that you spend thinking about the things that you wish you were doing.

Be decisive

What can you do about it?

You can do what ever you want about it.

It really comes down to weighing your options and deciding.  Should I be cautious about everything or should I take some risks.

You want to get something done.  But the cautious side of you says what if I fail?  Well then you fail.

The risk taking side of you says what if I succeed?  Well then you succeed.

That is all pretty obvious.  The thing to keep in mind is.  If you don’t try at all then the only thing that you will do is fail.

I am not saying that all risks are worth it.  There are risks where being cautious is the way to go.  Go back to our example at the beginning.  You are driving in some ice.   How bad is the ice.  How cautious should you be?   If you are being so cautious that it puts others in harms way then you are probably being too cautious.

What is it you want to do?  How do you want to get there?

Weigh the risks and make a choice.

If you make no choice then the choice has been made for you.

Eat more Bacon

I was watching a video about being cautious.   It was about whether you should eat a bacon sandwich every day.  The down side of eating a bacon sandwich every day was that it could increase your chances of getting cancer or increase your chances of death due to eating unhealthy food every day.

The upside being that bacon sandwiches are extremely delicious and make you happy because you are eating something good.

The risk – don’t eat it to avoid the negatives.  It turns out the negative was an extremely small risk of the cancer or dying early due to taking the risk.

He decided that the benefit of eating the bacon sandwich far outweighed the risks that were out there.  Yes there is risk but the risk is acceptably small.

You can apply this to the question of are you being overly cautious.

So as you set your goals in life  and come up with your plan to life the good life weigh the risks against the benefits.  This way you can help yourself to decide to get over being too cautious.

Someone once told me that worrying does nothing.  Except to make you more worried.

So move on and live your life.

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How to decide to live the good life http://www.bitojava.com/2017/01/17/how-to-decide-to-live-the-good-life/ Tue, 17 Jan 2017 13:22:58 +0000 http://www.bitojava.com/?p=2065 decide to live the good lifeOne of the most difficult things to do is to decide to live the good life.  What do you really want and how are you going to get there?  There are so many questions to ask.  So many avenues to follow.   How can you possibly figure it all out.  Really it is overwhelming.  Or is it…

What are the steps you have to take to decide to live the good life?  It really all depends on you and how you are going to define the good life.  Sit down and write it out.  What is it that makes you happy?  You can figure it out.  Well you have to figure it out.  The only way that your path to the good life can be mapped out is to figure out what the good life means to you.

Write it Down

Write down everything that makes you happy.  When I say everything I mean everything.  There is nothing that it too silly to write down.  Think of this as a brainstorming session.  This is where you collect as many ideas as possible.  Take 5 or 10 minutes and write down as many things as you can think of.  Here is a document you can use.  You can download it here  Click on File and select Download As to save it in what ever format you like to use.  You can print it out of you want to write on it rather than type.  Either will work.  What ever is most effective for you.

Baby Steps

I am sure you have heard that before.  Baby steps will make it easier for you to figure out what it is that you need to do.  You can try to take giant strides or make amazing leaps.  But if you do this and fail then it will only end up slowing you down. Or worse yet leading to you giving up.

Taking baby steps does not mean that you move slowly.  It means that you break things up into smaller chunks.  By doing this you create smaller goals that are easier to attain and give you a much larger sense of accomplishment.  This will lead to you having more confidence.  Which will lead to you getting more done.

Once you decide what the good life if your you.  It will not just happen.  It would be really nice if it did.  There will still be work to do.  A lot of work.  Just deciding what you want it a huge step.  The thing that will make it different it the fantastic feeling you will have from accomplishing so much.

Persistence

Living the good life takes persistence.  Of course if you are doing something you love than it make is much easier.  Do you want your life to feel like work or do you truly want to enjoy it?  When you enjoy what you are doing everything just seems to be much easier and makes you feel good about things.

How to decide to live the good life

So you have this list that you wrote down of the things that make you happy.  Now go through that list and narrow it down.  Eliminate the things that are unreasonable or unattainable at this point.  It is okay to have dreams in fact we encourage it but sometimes those dreams are going to have to be dreams for at least a while.  If you have not read the ten step plan you can find it here. Just some ideas to get you started on the path to decide to live the good life.

Tell us in the comments how your plan and goals are coming along.

The only way to get to where you want to be.  Is to get going on your plan now.  Write a goal down now and take the first step.

 

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Ten Step Plan to Help you Live the Good Life http://www.bitojava.com/2016/11/29/ten-step-plan-to-help-you-live-the-good-life/ http://www.bitojava.com/2016/11/29/ten-step-plan-to-help-you-live-the-good-life/#comments Tue, 29 Nov 2016 01:12:16 +0000 http://www.bitojava.com/?p=2085 Live the good lifeTo Live the Good Life is or should be the dream of everyone.  Of course your idea of the good life does not match mine.  That is ok.  Here is the list we follow on setting goals that can help lead to living the good life.   It will not necessarily be an easy path but having a path will make it much easier to get there.   Let us know in the comments how the plan is working for you.

10 (11) step plan on how to Live the good life

  1. What is the good life to you?  How to define what your idea of the good life is

Everyone’s idea of how to life the good life is different.  This is a good thing.   If everyone had the exact same idea then this would be a pretty boring world.  The beautiful thing is that even though everyone’s idea of how to live the good life is different.  You can use the same methods to figure out what the good life is to you.

Our journey here will help point those of you that choose to participate in the direction of living the good life that you choose.

2. Define intermediate goals to get to the good life – write them down

Once you have the main goals figured out. It will be important to define intermediate goals to get you there.  The intermediate goals are what will give you that sense of accomplishment along your journey to life the good life.  These goals can be as small or as large as you would like.  We recommend small goals so you achieve more.  Even if it is just perceived achievement.  As long as it is moving you along your path to the main goal then it is all good.

3.Walk away for a week and then re-evaluate your goals to make sure that they meet your true needs and values

At times you will get stuck or you will just not feel like you are achieving anything.  At those times it will help to step back and re-evaluate.   Maybe the goal you set is not moving you in the direction that you intended.  Or this goal may not be a goal you really want to achieve anymore.   This is all fluid.  Don’t be afraid to modify your goals.  If you stick with a goal that does not meet what you want then you are just getting yourself off your path to living the good life.

4.Establish a realistic timeline to meet your intermediate goals

If you try to do too much too quickly it is possible to burn yourself out.  If your burn yourself out it will derail your whole plan.  Then you will have to start over.  We don’t want to have to do that.  It is all about setting yourself up for success and attaining it.

 

5.Seek continuous education and self-improvement to help you reach each goal

As you are working on your path to living the good life.  You will come across many opportunities for continued self-improvement and education.  Take as many of these opportunities as you can.  Not only will this help you along your path.  It will provide you with more paths to take.  The more you learn the more you know.  LOL   sounds funny but if you think about it.  It is the truth.  The more you know the more opportunities you will have.

This may give you an even better idea of what you want to achieve in your path to the good life.

6.Reward yourself upon meeting each intermediate goal

A reward can be something simple.  It can be more extravagant when you reach a big goal.   It can be something as simple as a piece of candy.  Getting something for your self that you have wanted for a long time.  It could be as simple as just taking a few hours for yourself somewhere or just at home watching a movie.  Just something that is you saying thank you to yourself for getting that goal done.

It really does not matter how big or small it is.  Just something for you.

7.Surround yourself with positive advisers and friends.  Avoid doomsayers that will crush your path to the good life

Negativity can kill a lot of progress.  It can also stop you in your tracks.   This is not always an easy thing to do.  There will be all different types of people in your life.  There will be the ones that are always encouraging and then the ones who are always trying to tear things down.  We have all knows people like that.

It is possible tha the negative person is a family member or a close friend it will make things much more difficult.  Try to talk to them about their attitude and how it is affecting your life.   If that is not possible or they are unwilling to listen you may have to cut ties with them as much as you can.

8.Review and refine your goals to make sure you are following the path to the good life

Now that you have been moving along on your goal to live the good life.  It is a good time to review your plan again and find out where you stand.  Are you moving in the right direction?  Have you met the goals that you have laid out?

Reviewing your goals is an important and on going part of your plan.    The only way to know if you are moving toward your goal to live the good life.  Is to review and make sure that you are on track.  This is where you ask yourself.  How am I doing and do I need to change anything?

9.Ensure that you have not neglected self-improvement to reach material goals

Sometimes you will have to sacrifice something in order to attain your goal to live the good life.  The difficult thing here is balance.  If your goal is or starts to lead toward material things (we are not saying this is bad if that your idea to live the good life) is it causing you to neglect other things.   If your idea is to have nice things.  Did you buy something that was more expensive just to have something nice.  This could impair your ability to maintain your effort to live the good life down the road.

10.You have reached your goals enjoy the good life

At this point you have worked hard.  By now you have reviewed, refined and replenished your goals.  You are now at a point where you can live the good life.

To life the good life is a choice. You really can choose, it really is possible.  That does not mean that it does not take work.  The work is part of the process to get to the point where you live the good life.  The idea is to make it so that it really is not work anymore.

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11.Take a break from the good life to mentor others on how to achieve the good life

Now that you have achieved the good life it is time to pay it forward.  Use the knowledge that you have gained from this experience to help others.  Once you are there you will need something to do.  Other than refining and reworking your goals and idea of the good life.   Helping others will help to give you even more satisfaction.

Let us know in the comments how you are going.  Don’t forget to follow us on facebook.  You can also comment there.  If you have a question you want to ask us you can use the Ask Us form.  Watch for more updates as we follow our goals to live the good life.  We will also be posting some forms for you to use to help you set goals and stay motivated.  We would also recommend reading our post about how to stay focused.  It will help you with your live the good life plan.

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Kahuka Shrimp, Oahu comes to Buxton http://www.bitojava.com/2016/06/06/kahuka-shrimp-oahu-comes-buxton/ Mon, 06 Jun 2016 00:28:50 +0000 http://www.bitojava.com/?p=2038  

I am on my yearly decompression pilgrimage to the Carolina coast.  Relaxation is only part of the reason that I choose to make a twelve-hour drive and fight Hampton Roads/Richmond traffic. The other side of the trip coin is of course FOOD.

We have been visiting this stretch of the Outer Banks nearly every year since 1998. In that time we have had only two bad meals from local restaurants. Also in that time, establishments have come and gone, but there is never a shortage of fine food when we are here.

Last night was a new culinary experience, as we visited a restaurant that had somehow slipped by all these years. Rusty’s Surf and Turf is located in Buxton NC., a small village that hosts among other this the Haterras Lighthouse.

While recovering from the drive the day before, my taste buds were whipped up in Donald Trump Protester, near riot condition. They demanded SHRIMP and my stomach was furiously backing the call. So for dinner we were off to Rusty’s.

We were the first group to arrive and be seated in the dining area. The feel of Rusty’s is a little bit North Carolina and a good bit Caribbean. Once seated I settled on a Carolina Brewing Company Copperline Ale, and we chose the Kahuka shrimp for an appetizer.

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The dish arrived a short time after drinks and was a work of art in its presentation. The shrimp was large and shell on, having been steamed which prevents soggyness. They were covered in an outstanding sauce which somehow captured sweet, sour, and hot all in one bite!

The choice of the Carolina Copperline Ale turned out to be a perfect match to the shrimp, providing a palate cleansing bitter element that balanced the spicy and sweet finish of the sauce. The rest of our meal was outstanding as well, as was the staff and chef at Rusty’s . If you are ever hungry on highway 12 and want an impeccable Carolina gone Pacific dining experience stop in and leave satisfied.

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A Triumphant return from minor adventures. http://www.bitojava.com/2016/06/06/triumphant-return-minor-adventures/ http://www.bitojava.com/2016/06/06/triumphant-return-minor-adventures/#comments Mon, 06 Jun 2016 00:25:30 +0000 http://www.bitojava.com/?p=2045 I am back, ensconced behind the walls of the family compound, fine cigar in hand and Martini at the ready. I am tired, happy to be home, and yet melancholy as we have left the coast. Yes readers, we are only just back from our annual get-a-way to the Carolina Coast. Sadly, it was but a week in our “second home”  but we did it right.

Our fun was somewhat spoiled by Tropical Storm Bonnie, which inched ever so slowly up the coast, dumping deluge after deluge of tropical rain on us. Some areas near us had 14+ inches of rainfall. This did keep us largely confined to the house for two days as the streets and roads were badly flooded. We soldiered on in gallant form however, with a steady supply of great reading, music, outstanding smokes and incredible food.

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Bonnie Comes-A-Calling

Food is one of the primary reasons we love the Carolina coast. Seafood of course is big with us and this trip (our twelfth) did not disappoint, as nary a single bad meal was had, either in restaurants or cooked at the beach house. Highlights:

Jason’s on Ocracoke Island NC. = The Bluefish  was the catch of the day when we were on the island, as always Jason’s fried it up perfectly crisp, and flavorful and produced an outstanding traditional fish n’ chips lunch. Paired with an ice cold Fat Tire it was a perfect followup from playing on a sandbar all morning with no other humans in sight.

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The Captains Table Buxton NC. = The “Pick Three” was our choice for our last night of the trip “Blowout” dinner. We both chose a combination of delicate flounder, Carolina Shrimp, and a Bay Crab cake. All of this was preceded by a nice cold house salad with a picture perfect french dressing and of course piping hot hushpuppies. The fresh flounder was prepared to absolute perfection and seasoned and lightly breaded. The shrimp was moderately sized, well prepared and very flavorful, and the crab cake added a heavier seafood flavor to the trio, which all finished in a stellar fashion paired with a Shipyard Export Ale.

The Atlantic Cafe Waves NC. = Fish Taco’s…. this was one of our monsoon rain that will never stop we don’t care get out of the house, excursions for lunch.  The Atlantic Cafe is a very low-key laid back spot. I had never had a “Fish Taco” as I was always of the “Taco needs Beef” culinary group. I have sinned…truly I have my friends by never having a fish taco before. And now I am almost afraid to try a fish taco anywhere else because I KNOW it just cannot be that good. Mahi Mahi lightly seared and placed on a hard taco shell, this is then piled high with a jalapeno salsa and wrapped in a soft taco. ERMAGAWD….This alone was worth 12 hours of Lemans style driving in a top -heavy SUV surrounded by utter morons on I81.  Pairing was a Carolina Brewing Copperline Amber Ale.

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Rusty’s (SEE SEPERATE POST,  IT WAS THAT GOOD!)

Oceana’s Bistro Avon NC. = Flounder was on the list first thing after our arrival at the house. We have been to Oceana’s several times and they never disappoint. Drinks were accompanied by perhaps the best calamari I have had in a decade, it was impeccably done so as to be tender and not rubbery, we simply inhaled it. The flounder was the mornings catch and was pan seared then fried with a hint of seasoning, this along with golden brown, home cut fries and creamy coleslaw set the culinary tone for the trip. Paring was and incredible Oceana’s Mojito, that was very much akin to drinking key-lime pie.

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Other fine meals were had, some were quick lunches (Burger-Burger, Avon NC. is outstanding) and some were cooked right at the house after coming off the beach.  Coming Up, techniques for not being depressed during a tropical depression! including best smokes of the trip, and how we pulled off a week of Good GREATLIFE for under 2k.

Cajun Style Shrimp, cooked up at the beach-house.

Cajun Style Shrimp, cooked up at the beach-house.

SO GO LIVE the GoodLife!

 

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10 Key Indicators you are living the Good-Life (and might not know it) http://www.bitojava.com/2016/06/01/10-key-indicators-living-good-life-might-not-even-know/ Wed, 01 Jun 2016 00:50:39 +0000 http://www.bitojava.com/?p=2040 In no particular order:

  1. The air is filled with the aroma of fresh ground Costa-Rican beans.
  2. You own  bespoke clothing
  3.  The sound of children surrounds you.
  4.  That ring of smoke you see is Dominican in origin.
  5.  You can quote Kipling.
  6.  The experience of 30 year old scotch is not foreign to you.
  7.  You think of others before yourself.
  8.  You seek adventure in some manner every day.
  9. You’ve cranked Handel’s Messiah during a thunderstorm.
  10.  You read BitOjava.com!

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How to avoid the I’ll Do it Tomorrow Syndrome http://www.bitojava.com/2016/04/27/ill-do-it-tomorrow-syndrome/ Wed, 27 Apr 2016 19:12:17 +0000 http://www.bitojava.com/?p=2017 I'll to it Tomorrow SyndromeI started this post 3 months ago…  but keep getting hit with the I’ll do it tomorrow syndrome. Not really but how many times have you had that happen to you.  You want to start a project and have the idea for it written down or in your mind but then that is it.  It just sits there.  Every day you look at it or think about it and say wow that is a great idea.  But I will get to it tomorrow.  Then the next day comes.  You look at or think about it again.  Something “comes up” and you think I will work on that tomorrow.  Now you are stuck in an endless loop of I will do it tomorrow.  This just goes on and on for you and the tomorrow never actually comes.

More people than you think have this problem.  It could be that you have come down with a bout of laziness or that you just are not sure what people will think of your idea.   Then it becomes an excuse to not do it.

How do you get stuck

The question becomes how do you over come that.  At times procrastination can be a good thing it becomes a short term reward with more free time.   But when it becomes a perpetual thing it can and will negatively affect you and other parts of your life.  Putting things off can end up causing more stress in your life. The short term reward turns into a long time loss.  Once you are in that loop though it is extremely difficult to break free from the clutches of the I’ll do it tomorrow syndrome.

So go pour yourself a fresh cup of coffee and lets look at some ways to get over the I’ll do it tomorrow syndrome.  (can also be applied to any other forms of procrastination you have going on out there)  🙂

Alight now that your are back with that cup of coffee – CHUG IT AND LETS GET GOING!!!!!!  no not really but lets get going.

Avoid getting stuck in the I’ll to it tomorrow Syndrome

Make a change in the way you to things – It can be a simple change to get started.  Change the way you drive to work.  Change your routine in the morning when you get up.  Eat something different.  Just make it something that changes what you are doing in the morning.  This will actually get your brain synapses to fire differently and lead you toward breaking your normal routine.  Many times when people are stuck in a loop it is their routine that is keeping them from getting out of that loop.

Quit Saying I’ll Do it Tomorrow –   Change it to I’ll Start it now!  Every time that you feel yourself starting to put something off think to yourself today is when I am going to start.  Don’t care about what you are going to be doing tomorrow.  Care about what you are doing today.  Changing one word in your thought process will make a world of difference.  I’ll Start it NOW!

Do it now!

Baby Steps – Making the small changes and easing yourself into the new task that you are aiming to achieve.  For some people going full in will work.  For most people it will just overwhelm them and they will revert back to their old ways very quickly.

Create a to to list with a detailed time line – this goes along with splitting tasks up into smaller pieces.  If you just set a deadline you are setting yourself up to fall back into a mode of procrastination and falling back into the I’ll Do It Tomorrow Syndrome.  This way you will be able to set smaller goals that will lead to the finished produce.  Setting smaller goals will help to give you that satisfied feeling of accomplishment and keep you on track.  Once you get used to doing this you will see a noticeable decline in how much you procrastinate.

Eliminate Pot Holes no one Likes those anyway

Eliminate Procrastination Pot Holes – a procrastination pot hole is something that distracts you from what ever task you are trying to complete.  It could be anything and more than likely it will be different for different people.  Are there certain web pages that you frequent a lot.  Say Facebook or You Tube or for me Slashdot.  I can always justify going to Slashdot.

I mean hey I am just keeping up on the latest news out there.  In order to combat this make it more difficult for you to get to those pages.  If you are going to them from a bookmark make the bookmark more difficult to get to.  If you really have trouble use parental controls on your computer and block that site.  A bit extreme maybe but effective.  If you always have the TV on and you say hey I am just using it as background noise.  Turn it off.  If you really want some back ground noise put on the radio or stream some music.

Stop Over Complicating things – it is very easy to turn a simple objective into something that seems much more daunting.  It is also easy to wait for the perfect time to accomplish a task.  I have news for you.  There is never a perfect time.  There is always something else going on.  So change your way of thinking.  The perfect time is now.  If you keep waiting for that “perfect time”  it leads you to that perfect excuse to fall back into the I’ll Do It Tomorrow Syndrome.  Really this isn’t rocket science, and even if it was, get over it and jump into it today.  Lets do this.

You Can Do it

I hope that some of these tips have helped you.  None of this stuff is ground breaking.   Most of you have probably already read some of these.  That is okay.   Really sometimes it just takes one thing to get someone motivated to get things done.  If you stay in the I’ll Do It Tomorrow Syndrome form of procrastination you will be cause yourself more stress.  Once you get into it and keep at it you will form some great habits and that will lead to better productivity.  If you haven’t yet check out our post about motivation and life.  Something will click.  Lets get it going today.

If you have any other tips or if we have motivated you a bit.  Let us know in the comments.  It would be fantastic to hear from you.

 

 

 

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