Be cautious but not too cautious

Don't be overly cautiousBe Cautious but not too cautious…  As I was driving to work today.  A day where we had some ice.  But not a lot of ice.  Something that is not really a surprise for a January in the Mid West.  I came up behind a car that was going 15 miles an hour on a road where the speed limit is 50.

Good they were being cautious.

Bad they were being way too cautious.

Being cautious to the point that their actions were actually becoming a danger to others.  In this case their overly cautious actions were causing dangerous conditions for others.  What if we look at this is a different way.  How are your actions affecting things for you?

If you are being overly cautious in your life, goals, decision making can and probably will lead to missed opportunities.

Getting past being overly cautious is not something that will be easy to do.  But trust me it can be done.  Being overly cautious can come about from many different things.  Mostly it comes about from habit and a fear of failure.  Once you can learn to overcome those two obstacles you free up time.  The non productive time that you spend thinking about the things that you wish you were doing.

Be decisive

What can you do about it?

You can do what ever you want about it.

It really comes down to weighing your options and deciding.  Should I be cautious about everything or should I take some risks.

You want to get something done.  But the cautious side of you says what if I fail?  Well then you fail.

The risk taking side of you says what if I succeed?  Well then you succeed.

That is all pretty obvious.  The thing to keep in mind is.  If you don’t try at all then the only thing that you will do is fail.

I am not saying that all risks are worth it.  There are risks where being cautious is the way to go.  Go back to our example at the beginning.  You are driving in some ice.   How bad is the ice.  How cautious should you be?   If you are being so cautious that it puts others in harms way then you are probably being too cautious.

What is it you want to do?  How do you want to get there?

Weigh the risks and make a choice.

If you make no choice then the choice has been made for you.

Eat more Bacon

I was watching a video about being cautious.   It was about whether you should eat a bacon sandwich every day.  The down side of eating a bacon sandwich every day was that it could increase your chances of getting cancer or increase your chances of death due to eating unhealthy food every day.

The upside being that bacon sandwiches are extremely delicious and make you happy because you are eating something good.

The risk – don’t eat it to avoid the negatives.  It turns out the negative was an extremely small risk of the cancer or dying early due to taking the risk.

He decided that the benefit of eating the bacon sandwich far outweighed the risks that were out there.  Yes there is risk but the risk is acceptably small.

You can apply this to the question of are you being overly cautious.

So as you set your goals in life  and come up with your plan to life the good life weigh the risks against the benefits.  This way you can help yourself to decide to get over being too cautious.

Someone once told me that worrying does nothing.  Except to make you more worried.

So move on and live your life.

How to decide to live the good life

decide to live the good lifeOne of the most difficult things to do is to decide to live the good life.  What do you really want and how are you going to get there?  There are so many questions to ask.  So many avenues to follow.   How can you possibly figure it all out.  Really it is overwhelming.  Or is it…

What are the steps you have to take to decide to live the good life?  It really all depends on you and how you are going to define the good life.  Sit down and write it out.  What is it that makes you happy?  You can figure it out.  Well you have to figure it out.  The only way that your path to the good life can be mapped out is to figure out what the good life means to you.

Write it Down

Write down everything that makes you happy.  When I say everything I mean everything.  There is nothing that it too silly to write down.  Think of this as a brainstorming session.  This is where you collect as many ideas as possible.  Take 5 or 10 minutes and write down as many things as you can think of.  Here is a document you can use.  You can download it here  Click on File and select Download As to save it in what ever format you like to use.  You can print it out of you want to write on it rather than type.  Either will work.  What ever is most effective for you.

Baby Steps

I am sure you have heard that before.  Baby steps will make it easier for you to figure out what it is that you need to do.  You can try to take giant strides or make amazing leaps.  But if you do this and fail then it will only end up slowing you down. Or worse yet leading to you giving up.

Taking baby steps does not mean that you move slowly.  It means that you break things up into smaller chunks.  By doing this you create smaller goals that are easier to attain and give you a much larger sense of accomplishment.  This will lead to you having more confidence.  Which will lead to you getting more done.

Once you decide what the good life if your you.  It will not just happen.  It would be really nice if it did.  There will still be work to do.  A lot of work.  Just deciding what you want it a huge step.  The thing that will make it different it the fantastic feeling you will have from accomplishing so much.

Persistence

Living the good life takes persistence.  Of course if you are doing something you love than it make is much easier.  Do you want your life to feel like work or do you truly want to enjoy it?  When you enjoy what you are doing everything just seems to be much easier and makes you feel good about things.

How to decide to live the good life

So you have this list that you wrote down of the things that make you happy.  Now go through that list and narrow it down.  Eliminate the things that are unreasonable or unattainable at this point.  It is okay to have dreams in fact we encourage it but sometimes those dreams are going to have to be dreams for at least a while.  If you have not read the ten step plan you can find it here. Just some ideas to get you started on the path to decide to live the good life.

Tell us in the comments how your plan and goals are coming along.

The only way to get to where you want to be.  Is to get going on your plan now.  Write a goal down now and take the first step.